The Joining of Two Trees…

I’ve had a busy couple of months, and a busy six months ahead of me as Paul and I are getting married in March next year! Exciting times ahead and lots of things still to organise but we are making good progress.

Thinking about this reminds me of something Paul said to me a while ago about how when we were married, it meant our family trees could finally be joined up together. I really like how interested he is in the genealogy work that I do. I first started working on his tree many years ago when we were work colleagues. I was working on a couple of trees for people from work at the time. It has been great to come to know so much about his family way before we ever became a couple. I also really enjoyed printing out his tree to show to his two sons – pointing out certain people who had interesting stories – from their paternal great grandfather who was a Seaman Torpedoman in the Royal Navy during WWII, to their 15th x great grandfather Sir William Skeffington – former Lord Deputy of Ireland.

A few weeks ago I went with Paul to celebrate his eldest sister’s 50th birthday, and it was the first time I had met members of his family apart from his two sons. I got to meet his two sisters, their partners, some of their children and their partners and children and one of his half brothers. We all got on really well and it was nice to be made to feel like one of the family already.

It will be nice to join the two branches together, combine the years of research that has been done on both our families and I will enjoy changing my surname (again!) to Darby.

Thankfully applications like Family Tree Maker make merging trees a pretty easy thing to do, so it is not going to be some difficult drawn out process.

I’m utilising my project management skills for wedding organisation, luckily it is a very small group of people coming to the wedding, and it will all be quite relaxed and informal so there isn’t a massive amount of things to organise.

Already booked the venue, sorted out my flowers (as I’m making them all myself), got my dress and shoes, Paul has his suit, we have our wedding rings and are finalising details of guests and food choices.

Do you have yours and your spouse/partner’s trees together in one tree or do you keep them separate? Let me know!


My wedding ring – specially made for me by John Titcombe Jewellers Cirencester

8 thoughts on “The Joining of Two Trees…

  1. I am so happy and excited for you! And what a great actual living metaphor—joining of your two family trees. I have a separate tree for my husband’s family because mine has become so cumbersome that if I wanted to share the research with “his” relatives, they’d get overwhelmed by all the other relatives. As it is, sometimes I wish I’d done separate trees for my mother’s side and my father’s side.

    • Thank you! Yes it is a dilemma really as Paul has his DNA associated to the separate tree I did for him. I’ve not merged trees before where there was another DNA account linked to it – mmmm wonder if it might be best to keep them separate. I don’t want to have to keep updating two trees. Will have to look into that as to whether Ancestry can cope with that!

  2. Congratulations Alex!
    The ring is beautiful, and it sounds like you’re both pretty organised and making sure the wedding will be fun and a real celebration of your happiness.
    We have a combined tree — mainly because it was always meant to be our son’s tree. Neither he nor T were particularly interested when I started, but both enjoy my excitement, especially in breaking down brick walls.

  3. Congratulations Alex and Paul. Something special for you both to look forward to in 2020. wishing you both lots of love and happiness. The ring looks beautiful.

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